The first thought that has to pop into your mind is, because they are alive? I mean it's not a big philosophical question. It's kind of like eating and breathing. But I just had to see what a book with this title was about.
The article, essentially more of a 'go buy this' than a review, detailed that the reasons women have sex is far more complex than I could imagine. Which could be true since I am a man. But I doubted it.
Reading the review honestly gave me no new insights, nor compelled me to buy the book. Women have sex because it feels good, they want something, and its natural. That's not exactly the reasons that were given, but it just breaks down to that. Which is exactly what I thought in the first place.
The book tries to dress all of this up though. It's based on research over 5 years with information from 1,000 women of various ages and sexual orientations. They even gave 13 different major reasons that appear in greater detail in the book.
Examples are: Mate poaching
"It's still a bad thing to do. But the bottom line is men and women mates poach because a lot of times the good ones are taken up. It is the case that if a good-looking guy has a good looking partner, then he must be doing something right to get this good-looking partner. She's already preselected him, and this in some ways makes him more desirable."
That falls under, it's natural and they want something. The fact that it's natural to be attracted to someone that others find attractive is basic. That's natural selection and been around since cavemen. Wanting what others have is as simple as "keeping up with the Jones'". But this excuse sounds like justification to me.
To Get Closer to God
"It was a dream come true, being with this incredible man. I was able to lose myself and see God, where the edges of the dreamworld and the real world met." Heterosexual woman, age 23"
Again, it's natural and feels good. Obviously very good for this woman.
To Even The Score, and Out of pity and a Want for Power
I combined these 2 as they are the same thing. Here is one quote
"I had sex with a couple of guys because I felt sorry for them. These guys were virgins and I felt bad that they had never had sex before so I had sex with them. I felt like I was doing them a big favor that no one else had ever done. I felt power over them, like they were weaklings under me and I was in control. It boosted my confidence to be the teacher in the situation and made me feel more desirable." Heterosexual woman, age 25"
Simply put, it is the want of something. Revenge, power, whatever.
Perhaps the classic worst reason I have ever heard may be these. I am combining them as they too are the same thing.
For Money, Out of Boredom and Want of a good meal, Because everyone else is doing it
"I only [have sex for money] with my kid's father. Not a prostitute or anything and because I love him but nothing is free in this world." Heterosexual woman, age 32"
That is just sad. It's insulting. And yes it is prostitution. Whether its cash or a meal. But again they all fall under wanting something. Just the really worst things to want, and a poor reflection on women that believe in this - in my male opinion.
Perhaps the only example of why anyone would buy this book is something I have never heard before.
"A lot of women report that the moment of penetration is the most pleasurable aspect of sex," said Buss, who previously published "The Evolution of Desire" about varying cultural attitudes about sex. "Orgasm is certainly up there, it's in the top three, but I don't know if it's the No. 1 physical reason."
Really? I've known many women, in fact all of them, that would differ with this conclusion. But I hardly could argue the point. So that was new to me, but still it falls under feeling good and being natural.
Seriously, a catchy title is the big draw for most things being sold. This book is just that, a title and nothing of real benefit - as I see it. But I didn't read it, and I won't. If any of my female readers do read this, I would love to hear if anything in this book goes beyond what I have concluded. Or if it's worth the money.
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